Frequently Asked Questions

Q. Why would I consider adoption?

A. For whatever reason, right now you may not be ready to parent. You may want a two-parent home or more stability for your child. It may be the time to do something different.

Q. Does anyone need to know?

A. No. If you lack support while making this plan for your child, we are here for you. If you choose to, our coordinators can help you discuss this with your family/children. All of our conversations are confidential.

Q. Can I choose the family who will raise my baby?

A. Absolutely! We will ask you what kind of family you have in mind and pull biographies of couples that match your criteria. We will continue to show you bios until you find a family that really, really excites you!

Q. What kind of families are available to adopt my baby?

A. We have stable Indiana families waiting to adopt. You can choose from families with no children or families that have adopted or biological children already living in their home.

Q. What if I'm overwhelmed and can't decide?

A. If you are overwhelmed and want less involvement, we can make it simpler. We can even choose the family for you.

Q. How committed am I to you and adoption?

A. There is no contract. If we can’t meet your needs, there is no obligation. We only ask you to be honest about your feelings, your needs and your commitment. We don’t want anyone to get hurt. We encourage you to tell us if you are feeling unsure about adoption.

Q. God wouldn't give me something I can't handle?

A. God has given you this choice. No matter what you decide, God has given you this opportunity, knowing you can make the tough decision that is right for you and this child.

Questions Concerning Your Rights

Q. When do I sign the papers?

A. You will sign after the birth of your child, usually 24-48 hours later.

Q. What if I change my mind?

A. You can change your mind at any time during your pregnancy or after the birth, as long as you have not signed the adoption papers.

Q. What if I know someone who wants to adopt my baby?

A. Doing a private adoption means there is no agency. You are still entitled to financial assistance and counseling no matter if you place your baby with a friend, family member of through a private adoption attorney.

Legal Questions

Q. Do I have to name the birth father?

A. No. You do not have to identify the birth father, according to Indiana Law.

Q. What if I'm under 18?

A. It’s still your decision. Your parents have no legal right to the child and there are no grandparent rights in the state of Indiana.

Q. Who pays my medical bills?

A. If you do not have Medicaid or insurance, and you do an adoption, medical bills for you and the baby are paid by the adoptive family. If you choose to parent, of course, your first parental responsibility would be to apply for Medicaid or pay the medical bills for you and your baby.

Q. Do I need to get my own attorney?

A. No. You do not need one. However, one can be provided for you.

Q. Can I get living assistance?

A. Yes. The state of Indiana allows for $4,000 of assistance with housing, living expenses, food, utilities and maternity clothes.

Q. How do I tell my family?

A. We can help. You’ll be surprised how well they respond when they hear the confidence in your voice, feel your commitment and see your maturity. We can be present, if you wish, and help with this important step.

Q. Can I get letters, pictures and visits after the adoption?

A. Yes. This is an important topic. You should discuss your wishes before placement, so you are all in agreement. Most of our families would like to share pictures and letters, and most will do visits after placement, if you wish.

Q. What is open adoption?

A. An open adoption is when you and the family share letters, pictures, and visits after placement.

Preparing for Placement

Q. How do I deal with everyone's opinion of my pregnancy?

A. We know the opinions of your parents, friends, and family matter to you, but, ultimately, what you think is most important.

Q. What if no one is supportive?

A. Many friends and family members will make promises to help you parent. Ask yourself if they have really come through for you in the past. You must make a decision you feel you can live with for the rest of your life.


Q. Can I see the baby in the hospital?

A. Yes. You can choose the level of contact you have with your baby and your adoptive family in the hospital.

Q. How do I know that my baby will be in a good home?

A. As a licensed agency, we do our own screening of our adoptive families. We can assure you they are stable, financially secure families in a solid marriage. They have passed five criminal and CPS screens, been approved as healthy by doctor physicals and have presented proof of income via tax records and payroll stubs. They must attend sessions at our office, be visited by our social worker in their home and attend our home study class. When approved, they have a true understanding of your needs for communication and sharing, and are happy to provide it.

Q. Will my baby go to a foster home?

A. No. Your baby goes directly from the hospital to your adoptive family’s home.

After I Place

Q. Will I get to see my child if I choose open adoption?

A. Yes, you will be able to customize a relationship with your child and his or her adoptive parents that can include texts, calls, video chats, letters, pictures, and visits.

Q. What if I don't choose an open adoption at placement, but then change my mind?

A. In this case, there is a good chance we can help you establish a relationship with your child and his or her parents. When you are ready, the first step is to call the Adoption Support Center so we can help you navigate this process.

Q. What is the Adoption Support Center's role in the placement?

A. It’s twofold. First, our role is to provide you support and counseling through your grief. Second, our role is to help you navigate your adoption relationship with your child and his or her parents.

Q. What will my child think of me later?

A. Our families have a strong respect for our birth mothers, and they want your child to feel that same love and respect for you. The home study is an educational process that covers when and how to tell the child they are adopted, how to handle their many questions as they grow and how to give them a strong sense of confidence.

Q. Why choose the Adoption Support Center?

A. We are women helping women. As a collection of caring women who are adoptive moms and birth mothers, we have personally experienced infertility and unplanned pregnancies. We know what it is like to be vulnerable and scared, and to experience loss.

Our coordinators are tireless and passionate. They will respond to your calls and visit you quickly. During your pregnancy, they will help you navigate medical care, legal advice, financial burdens, birth fathers, and adoptive families. There are no judgments and no pressure. If ever you decide that adoption isn’t right for you, just know we are right here, cheering you on no matter what you decide. We always want the best for you and your child, even if that doesn’t mean adoption.

You have an advocate here at ASC, someone who knows your options and rights. After you have placed, you will not be forgotten.  Adoption Support Center is prepared to help you navigate post-placement with support groups, birth mom events, counseling, and more. You are not just a vessel here, we value you.

So call and ask us about adoption. There is no obligation, and a friendly voice will always answer.

Call now to have your questions answered!
(317) 255-5916