where you are in charge
An unplanned pregnancy is never easy and there are no simple choices, but we can help.
The Adoption Support Center (ASC) is a safe, friendly place where expectant moms can open up about what is weighing on them during their pregnancy. No matter what you’re going through or where you are in your pregnancy, a friendly conversation about your options is always welcome. There are no judgments. We have been supporting women making hard decisions for 32 years.
We’re here to tell you, you’re not alone.
Are you faced with an unexpected pregnancy? Feeling overwhelmed by the need to make decisions for your life and now, a baby’s life as well? No matter how far along you are, the staff of the Adoption Support Center is always ready to have a conversation about your options. Your choices.
Whether this is your first baby or more, choosing to parent takes strength, determination, and lots of resources. You will be accepting the full responsibility for the life of another human being. Your life will never be the same after you begin parenting. You may grieve the loss of the life you had before the baby comes. You may grieve putting your plans for school, job, or relationship on hold. If you choose to parent your baby, surround yourself with people willing to cheer you on, offer real support, and who will love you and your baby on the bad days and the good. If you have ruled out parenting as an option, that leaves you with two other options.
Many women tell us they consider abortion because they will not have to deal with the responsibility of having a child. They believe it is a choice that makes their problem of pregnancy go away. Yet many women also report grieving the “what might have been”. Their grief includes guilt and sadness. Frequently women who have abortions report feeling isolated and alone. Fearing harsh, mean judgements, women who abort choose to keep this decision a secret. And abortion may change the relationship with the baby’s father, resulting in another loss to grieve. If you choose to terminate your pregnancy, find at least one person with whom you can talk about your choice, and who will love you unconditionally.
Choosing to place your baby with someone else also takes strength and determination. Expectant parents who chose to place their baby for adoption do so because they believe they cannot offer the baby what the baby needs and deserves at that time in their own lives. Placing a baby for adoption may allow you to pursue the goals you had before the baby came into your life, but there is also sadness and grief in allowing someone else to become your baby’s parents. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, surround yourself with people who understand the reasons for the placement and will love you unconditionally. It’s also important to connect with a reputable adoption agency. You need to be informed of your rights as an expectant mom. An agency will provide pre- and post-placement counseling so you will have support as you consider this difficult decision.
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